So that happened.
February 26th was an interesting day to say the least. So many emotions and not just from Chris.
If you're wondering, no we weren't "trying". It seemed that every time we thought about "trying" we (okay, me) would overthink about all the unpleasant things that come with pregnancy and having a c-section. So, we opted for the less stressful route which was also how we wound up with our other two minions. You know the whole, if it happens it happens.
Chris is probably spinning that I'm telling you guys that much but he can write his own post about it, otherwise you guys get to experience my point of view lol.
March 29th---
Everything looked good. Strong heartbeat and measuring at 8 weeks and 6 days. Due date is November 2, but with a c-section we're looking at an October baby. Personally I don't think it looks like a baby (honestly it never does this early) and instead looks more like an upside down vw beatle in the top pic and a t-rex in the bottom pic.
April 29th---
I still haven't fully processed that we're having another kid. To be honest I don't really process until there are more frequent visits and at this point I've only had the one. My next visit isn't until May 6. It's just hard to FEEL pregnant when you can't see or feel the kid. You just tend to feel hungry and tired and fat which isn't too different from how women tend to feel once a month anyways.
I do always get nervous during pregnancy. It's like you don't really know how the kid is doing until you can see it on an ultrasound. I feel better when I can physically hold the kid. Regardless I know that God has got this whether we make it to term or not and trusting in Him brings comfort and peace. I know that might sound crazy. Like why would it bring me peace if I lost my child? The thing is, with every pregnancy and every birth and to this day, my children are not mine. They are God's. I think about the story of Abraham and Isaac. God blessed me with children and I will fight for them as long as they or I live. However, God's timing is always perfect and trusting in Him and not myself and what I want life to look like.. He will always be better. He proves that time and time again.
Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths. - Proverbs 3:5-6
For we walk by faith, not by sight. -2 Corinthians 5:7
May 2---
Let's talk about prego questions.
I realize that I may get the "are you craving anything?" question, because let's be honest, what pregnant woman doesn't get that question at some point in her pregnancy. Let's be honest.. it's one of the most annoying pregnancy questions next to, "what are you hoping for? Boy or girl???" GUESS WHAT. I crave things when I'm not pregnant too, but no one ever asks me then. I can go from cake to tacos whether I'm pregnant or not.
"What are you hoping for? Boy or girl?" question- Unless it's our first kid, please don't ask that question. Regardless, we're more than likely going to answer with the good parent answer of "We don't have a preference, we just hope it's healthy." After you've had one kid, lemme tell you that answer is a bold faced lie. Yes, we want to have a healthy kid, but if your first kid was chaotic, you're probably hoping for the other gender. OR, you're the classic "I want one of each" parent like you're collecting trading cards. OR, you're the "I want a girl, 'cause she'll be daddy's girl" or, "I want a boy, he'll be a momma's boy", when in just a few short years they'll hate that you're breathing in the same building as them regardless if they're "momma's boy" or "daddy's girl" anyways.
"How are you carrying, cause that'll tell you the gender" - LIE. You want to know how I carried with my son and daughter? Fatly. That's how I carried. Not a difference in the world. ALSO. Just because I'm a petite person does NOT mean I'm one of those pregos that's cute and tiny and you can hardly tell that they're pregnant. It is VERY obvious from every angle that I am pregnant and lemme tell you I also don't glow, I sweat. I don't glide, I waddle. I don't just have a belly, I have a Pillsbury doughboy body. Just because I'm a small person doesn't mean my body doesn't gain weight, and that it doesn't put enormous stress on my small-ly built body that causes immense pain the larger I get. At this point I'm roughly 13 weeks and my hips are KILLING me. It makes sleeping very difficult and there are times I have difficulty with my body seizing up in so much pain. I have some 20 odd weeks left in this pregnancy and let me tell you, it's a battle every time. Physically, mentally, emotionally.
"How much weight have you gained? (Make any comments about my weight)" - DO NOT ASK ME ABOUT MY WEIGHT WHETHER I'M PREGNANT OR NOT BECAUSE IT'S RUDE.
SIDENOTE- DO NOT ASK TO TOUCH MY BELLY (OR JUST DECIDE YOU WANT TO TOUCH MY BELLY WITHOUT EVEN ASKING). Do you understand how awkward and creepy that is?? Do you want me touching your belly? Guess what, when you touch my belly, you're touching my BELLY, not the baby. The baby is inside me through many layers of skin, and muscle and all the other junk that they will cut through and move in order to get this child out. You touching my belly does nothing more than creep me out and cause me to think of any reason to get away from you. Unless you're the person that put the baby there, aka my husband, please don't touch my belly.
*14 WEEKS*
May 8 ---
Had a visit May 6th, and everything is still going well. Baby had a good heartbeat and they don't have too many concerns at this point in the pregnancy. They are looking at delivering a week before my due date (Nov 2) seeing as Baby Bean will be delivered via c-section and I've already had two. Apparently there are a lot of insurance problems they start to encounter unless it is showing that it is medically necessary (placenta is laying close to where they would need to perform the c-section, etc.) to deliver before 39 weeks. SO that means if everything stays good we will deliver Mini McCall at 39 weeks WHICH MEANS having an October baby and anyone that knows me KNOWS that I LOVE Halloween time and to have an October baby is the most amazing thing! Plus now we kind of have all the kids born in different seasons. Micah- Winter/Spring (depending on where we live lol), Kenley- Summer, Baby Bean- Fall. Also all of the kids, including Chris and I, will have a 2 in their birthday day.
Chris- Feb 20
Kelly- July 28
Micah- Feb 2
Kenley- May 21
Baby Bean- Oct- 26-28 (tbd depending on how things go)
Also I am turning 30 this summer (July 28th) and having a third kid in my third decade of life.. I'm kinda loving it.
If all of this sounds a little crazy and mushed together, it's because Kenley is sitting in my lap and trying to lay on my arms and it's a bit distracting.
So recap- we're having a baby at the end of October and everything looks good so far.
May 31 ---
Doctor checkup to see how everything is going. Doctors said everything still sounded really well.. so not much to say on that lol. ALTHOUGH, Baby Bean did decide to give a swift kick the second they put the sonogram on my belly and push down to hear a heartbeat. That was the first time this pregnancy I felt them move, and geez it was a strong kick. Sonogram almost blew it's speakers. But Baby B. sounded good and we get to find out the gender (HOPEFULLY) June 3rd, aka longest weekend of my life.
----Side---- If you're wondering what we're hoping/thinking it will be--- We both are leaning towards a boy. I know, you're probably flabbergasted that I, a woman, would want another son instead of another daughter. Like somehow because I'm female, I should hope all my offspring will be female and that Chris should hope that all our offspring are boys. WRONG. You seriously wouldn't believe how many "Really?!?!" 's I've received when I respond with boy instead of girl. No it's not because I think boys are better than girls, cause they're not. I was hoping for a boy because,
1. Kenley is about enough estrogen that I think I can take in this house besides myself and to add another would I think cause my anxiety to explode especially once they start hitting puberty and all those "fun" teenage years.
2. I would've liked a boy for Micah to bond with, especially as he gets older and it would give him someone to talk (when that time comes) to. He has a hard enough time being given the chance to bond with children outside of his school. He has playmates 5 days a week at school, but outside of that, he's not really given the time or patience in understanding how he plays or relates. I can tell that he notices it and he tries to be around other children (outside of school) and be a part of what they are doing. It breaks my heart when he constantly finds himself alone because he doesn't play like they do, or talk to them. It keeps me up most nights. Lots of tears and hurt. Kenley plays with him at the house, but I know she doesn't fully understand that she should try and play with him too when they're around other kids. Not to mention, she does try to "mom" Micah and a boy more than likely wouldn't try and take a parent role with him and instead act like a sibling. I want Micah to feel like he has siblings and friends, not just parents.
So, I have had a REALLY hard time taking my prenatal vitamins this entire pregnancy. They are the same kind I took with Kenley and Micah but for some reason with Baby Bean, they have given me migraines and made me extremely nauseous. We decided to try a different brand and lemme tell you that has made a world of a difference. I've been able to take them consistently with no ill side effects which has been WONDERFUL and eased some (okay a lot) anxiety because I know I need to be able to take my prenatal vitamins and the first few months are critical for taking them and I haven't been able to.
June 3 ---
The big day.
Perfect picture of an October baby. Cute and adorable and then absolutely terrifying. Seems about right.
In case you didn't look close enough at the ultrasound, here's a better hint at what we're having..
Pardon my very tired expression in the picture above.. It was a lot to process with finding out what we were having. Not to mention I had "gone to sleep" the night before with a migraine and was only able to sleep maybe an hour. For the record, we are very excited that we are having (at this point and as far as we know) a healthy baby girl. Yes, it may not have been the boy we were leaning towards but as Chris said, "I'm excited to be able to raise another strong and empowered woman", and lemme tell you THAT almost caused us to have about 20 more kids. Hey-o.
So end of this blog post BUT if you were wondering, NO WE WILL NOT BE SAYING WHAT THE NAME WILL BE. We have some ideas we've been tossing around, but I said that if we ever had another kid (aka this one) we'd wait until we had the kid in our arms to see if the name we liked seemed to fit them. If not, I don't want things to be given to us that are monogrammed or whatever with a name we don't want to have our kid saddled with. SO, IN OCTOBER AFTER THE BABY IS BORN IS WHEN YOU AND US FOR THAT MATTER WILL KNOW THE NAME.
P.S.S-- Kudos to those that read the post FIRST, instead of be redirected here for any of the above information. I already have to tell my kids the same thing 8k times a day, and answering the same questions a million times to a million different people is not how I plan on spending my days. All other questions after this like "how far along are you", I'm not going to know. I'm due the last week of October so go from there. First kid I knew the week, day, and time... second I knew the week approximately... this is the third. I know the due date for my c-section. So yes, if I direct or re-direct you to this page, it's because you can happily answer all the questions that you personally want to ask me, here. See ya in October!
FIN.
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